Some people mistakenly believe that Saint Paul considered women to be second-class partners in marriage, usually pointing to his statement that wives should be submissive to their husbands. What is forgotten, however, is that Paul teaches that husbands must love their wives with the same love and sacrifice with which Christ loved the Church. What does that mean? It means that husbands are called to give everything, including if necessary their lives, to love and care for their wives.
Brothers and sisters:
Live in love, as Christ loved us.
Husbands, love your wives,
even as Christ loved the church
and handed himself over for her to sanctify her,
cleansing her by the bath of water with the word,
that he might present to himself the church in splendor,
without spot or wrinkle or any such thing,
that she might be holy and without blemish.
So also husbands should love their wives as their own bodies.
He who loves his wife loves himself.
For no one hates his own flesh
but rather nourishes and cherishes it,
even as Christ does the church,
because we are members of his body.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
This is a great mystery,
but I speak in reference to Christ and the church.
Husbands, have you committed yourself that you will follow the example of Christ in your love for your wife?
Wives, do you encourage and honor your husband for his submission to Christ in your marriage?